everything i touch turns to gay
you don’t have to identify as male or even as masculine to perpetuate shitty entitled misogynistic behaviors. anybody can act as a misogynist! including genderqueers, non-binary folks, women, femmes etc. because misogyny is a pervasive form of power (bad power) because it is something we all learn to internalize. with that said, if you deny allegations of misogyny and sexual entitlement by stating that 1) “im just really tender!” and more pressingly 2) “i don’t identify as a man, so how dare that bitchy femme for saying im making them uncomfortable, that’s just so invalidating!” you have your own shit to work on. and yes im using that specific example because this is a pattern ive seen repeated on SO MANY occasions by a multitude of people
hey, but also I have seen this used to invalidate thoughts and experiences of trans women in a really bullshit way, so like watch yourself too
Like hey this is legit and all, but it seems like when calling people out/trying to link peoples’ actions to larger systems of oppression people often do not stop to think about or investigate the context from which a person is acting. Like misogyny is inherently linked to/caused by patriarchy (duh), and often actions that are interpreted as misogynist are interpreted that way because they are interpreted as the actions of a man/patriarch because the person performing the actions is interpreted as a man/patriarch. Sometimes what seems like macho posturing is a woman protecting herself. Sometimes what seems like misogynistic language is a woman reclaiming something that has been used to exclude and hurt her. Sometimes a person’s actions maybe seem misogynistic, but upon further inspection you are just a trans misogynist. Just saying….
That being said, I have seem hella folks of all sorts use their identity to excuse shitty misogynistic behavior, and that is real fucking rotten. I will never tell anyone not to protect themselves or defend their boundaries, but sometimes the way people defend themselves means that someone else is left unprotected. Sometimes defending your boundaries means tearing down some one else’s. If you are able to, and I think most people usually are you should take the time/energy to think about that interaction/relationship. So much harm has been done in the name of fear and self defense, and it is real important to figure out where the power lies. Sometimes it is with you, and what you think is a member of a target group defending them self is actually a member of an agent group asserting the power of the agent group, and that shit sucks.
why do people think angels are like, beautiful blonde white women with curly hair im pretty sure in the bible angels had to say “be not afraid” because they have like a shitload of eyes and heads and also are on fire or somthing like that
fire and water
Who’s On First except instead of being about trying to talk to someone about people with confusing names it’s about trying to talk a cis person about people who use they/them pronouns
Have you had the experience where you meet a person and you just know. You know that they are something special, and you want to be their friend, and maybe you feel nervous at first but quickly you realize that though this person is very cool they are not tooooo cool to want to talk to you. That’s what happened when I met Nic. I was immediately impressed in some way and quickly came to know that this person is a True Friend. This person is like walking down the middle of a residential street at night, like the stickiness of lime juice on your fingers and how the jasmine smells on the first warm day after a rain. Nic is something that I want to be around. Talking to Nic feels like talking to some beautiful version of myself that I had forgotten even existed, thanks for reminding me. They are the strongest and most gentle, they are truthful, I never want to stop hearing what they have to say.
ummmmmmmmmm of course